Good to hear from you dog dude. Sorry to hear your missus is still suffering.
You're not alone in suffering for your family. You and I both have taken the long game, trying to keep peace for the sake of others. Inevitably for me, I suspect I'm getting close to the point where I can't stand it anymore and might have to take action.
At least you're not serving anymore, that's a serious load off, good for you!